Besides your looks, personality, interests and employment status, your location can influence your odds of finding a romantic partner. Everyone has different priorities when searching for love, but certain places simply make dating easier than others. That’s especially true during the COVID-19 pandemic, as certain states are more impacted than others, though virtual dates have risen in popularity as a safer alternative to going out in person.
Once most people can get the COVID-19 vaccine, we should see more opportunities for dating in person across the U.S., and as always, cost will be a big factor. In states with low cost of living, for instance, your income might stretch a lot further, which means cheaper or more frequent dates. If you’re more financially stable, though, you might appreciate a state with more attractions to find new experiences for both you and your potential other half. Dating is also a numbers game, so a state with a higher proportion of single adults automatically improves your prospects.
Which states combine all of those qualities and more? To answer that question, WalletHub compared the 50 states across 30 key indicators of dating-friendliness. Our data set ranges from the share of single adults to online-dating opportunities to restaurants per capita.
To see how your zip code affects your chances of finding love, check out WalletHub’s Best & Worst Cities for Singles report.
Best & Worst States for Singles
|Overall Rank||State||Total Score||Dating Opportunities||Dating Economics||Romance & Fun|
Note: With the exception of “Total Score,” all of the columns in the table above depict the relative rank of that state, where a rank of 1 represents the best conditions for that metric category.
Your marital status can affect, among many things, where you choose to live and how you spend your money. For additional insight on such topics, we asked a panel of experts for their thoughts on the following key questions:
- What should singles be looking for when choosing where to live?
- When, if ever, is it appropriate to ask someone you are dating about their finances, including their credit score and amount of debt?
- What tips do you have for saving money when dating?
- Do you think the economic benefits of virtual dating will lead to narrowing down potential face-to-face dates?
- Should local authorities work to make states more attractive to single professionals? If so, how?
Ask the Experts
In order to identify the best and worst states for singles, WalletHub compared the 50 states across three key dimensions: 1) Dating Economics, 2) Dating Opportunities and 3) Romance & Fun.
We evaluated those dimensions using 30 relevant metrics, which are listed below with their corresponding weights. Each metric was graded on a 100-point scale, with 100 representing the most favorable conditions for singles who are actively dating. Data for metrics marked with an asterisk (*) were available at the city level only, and in such cases we calculated a weighted average based on the size of the city population. For metrics marked with two asterisks (**), we used the square root of the population to calculate the population size in order to avoid overcompensating for minor differences across states.
We then determined each state’s weighted average across all metrics to calculate its overall score and used the resulting scores to rank-order the states.
Dating Opportunities – Total Points: 50
- Share of Single Adults: Double Weight (~9.09 Points)
- Gender Balance of Singles: Double Weight (~9.09 Points)
Note: This metric measures the ratio of single women to single men, taking into account several age groups (20-34; 35-49; 50-64, 65 and older).
- Online-Dating Opportunities: Full Weight (~4.55 Points)
Note: This metric was measured using the percentage of households with a broadband Internet connection.
- Mobile-Dating Opportunities: Full Weight (~4.55 Points)
Note: This metric was measured using the percentage of adults who own a smartphone.
- Online-Dating Participation: Double Weight (~9.09 Points)
Note: This metric measures the real intent of the population to find information about the following search terms: “online dating,” “dating,” “Tinder,” “Match.com” and “eharmony”. “Real intent” is measured using the average monthly search volumes for those specific terms.
- Openness to Relationships: Full Weight (~4.55 Points)
Note: This metric is based on the Attachment Avoidance Score, which comes from a survey of 127,000 adults who answered questions about fear of abandonment and discomfort with intimacy.
- Percentage of Residents 12+ Who Are Fully Vaccinated: Double Weight (~9.09 Points)
Dating Economics – Total Points: 25
- Average Beer & Wine Price*: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
- Average Starbucks Caffe Latte Price: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
- Movie Costs*: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
- Beauty-Salon Costs*: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
- Haircut Costs*: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
- Median Annual Household Income: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
Note: This metric was adjusted for the cost of living.
- Housing Affordability*: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
Note: This metric measures the price of rent for a one-bedroom apartment (adjusted for the median annual household income).
- Job Growth Rate: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
- Median Credit Score: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
- Community Well-Being Index: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
Note: This metric refers to the Sharecare Community Well-Being Index Score.
- Unemployment Rate for Single Population: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
Note: “Single Population” includes those who have never been married, are widowed or are divorced.
- Underemployment Rate: Full Weight (~2.08 Points)
Romance & Fun – Total Points: 25
- Restaurants per Capita: Full** Weight (~2.27 Points)
- Number of Attractions*: Full Weight (~2.27 Points)
Note: “Attractions” include, for instance, museums, cultural performances, and zoos and exclude nightlife options.
- Nature Parks and Other Similar Institutions per Capita: Full** Weight (~2.27 Points)
- Fitness & Recreational Facilities per Capita: Full** Weight (~2.27 Points)
- Movie Theaters per Capita: Full** Weight (~2.27 Points)
- Amusement Parks per Capita: Full** Weight (~2.27 Points)
- Music Festivals per Capita: Full** Weight (~2.27 Points)
- Nightlife Options per Capita: Full** Weight (~2.27 Points)
- Access to Bars Grade: Full** Weight (~2.27 Points)
Note: This grade is a combination of bars per square root of residents and bars per square mile. It is a measure of both the proximity (per square mile) and the availability (per capita).
- Crime Rate: Full Weight (~2.27 Points)
- Online Dating Safety (Cyber Crime Rate): Full Weight (~2.27 Points)
Note: This metrics measures the total number of internet crime complaints from each state.
Sources: Data used to create this ranking were collected from the U.S. Census Bureau, Bureau of Labor Statistics, Federal Bureau of Investigation, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Department of Housing and Urban Development, Council for Community and Economic Research, Esri's Updated Demographics - 2021 estimates (Market Potential: GfK MRI), Google Ads, Fast Food Menu Prices, Live Science, TransUnion, Internet Crime Complaint Center, TripAdvisor, Music Festival Wizard and Sharecare-Boston University School of Public Health.